One Way Stress

Uphill in Porvoo for the blog post "One way Stress" by Chris Remspecher.One Way Stress.

Stress seems to work like a one way street. From somewhere outside yourself the rivers of stress flow directly to your central nervous system just to make you, well, nervous. Some might stress now, that there are SO MANY people who radiate stress. Correct. But have you ever seen a peaceful, meditating monk creating a stressful situation for others?

Now what to do with all this incoming stress? Instead of complaining – move. Walk uphill, find the origin of your stress. Yes, this can be quite a hike! The reward of climbing up that hill can be a better overview over your current situation. Maybe the source of your stress is super supportive to you but you just don’t get the link of an unfriendly boss and your freedom of choice to upgrade to a new workplace.

Imagine you are traveling in a very fast train. If you stand up and walk around slowly, all seems fine and pleasing to you, unless you look out of the window and try to focus on a very near spot besides the train. Some of us ride in a hyper stress train, without even noticing it. Suddenly, out of nowhere it’s Christmas again, again! Do yourself a favor and check speed and destiny of your current voyage from time to time. Godspeed!

Be a friend

Be a friend. Picture by Chris Remspecher.Sometimes you need many words to grasp a topic. Sometimes 3+4+4 are enough.

The only way to have a friend is to be one. Ralph Waldo Emerson

Best friends with your mind

Picture of Lama Kelzang.Lucky me, just yesterday I could attend a teaching by Lama Kelzang. “How to train your mind?” and “How to get a good friendship with the mind?” were his initial questions. According to Lama Kelzang, our mind is funny or even interesting. It’s like a camera, it takes many pictures. Maybe, it’s even like a CCTV, always active on a subtle level, even in our sleep.

If our mind takes nice pictures, we are in peace. If our mind is overloaded we get crazy and suffer. Craziness or harmony, peace or bullshit; it’s the mind which picks between suicide or Buddha.

How can we be more stabilized? How do we become best friends with our mind? First, it’s about compassion. Second, we need wisdom. When we are more balanced, we transform ourselves in a more relaxed person. So how do we get there?

Through formal and informal meditation, we give a full education to our mind. Yes, there are many methods. Think of a potato. You can cook it, make French fries, salad or chips from it. But at the end, it’s a potato. When you are more relaxed, you have more compassion with you, your surroundings and even with your sickness. Oh and don’t smile, when you don’t feel like it!

Compassion is no theory. Remember: “Anger is really painful!” If you transform your angry mind, which is most probably full of fears, into compassion, something can change. “This anger is really important for me right now!” Sounds strange? Maybe, but this can also be a starting point for your journey of compassion, your very own compassion project.

Imagine yourself like a network hub of compassion. The more you open, the more you can send out. “When you are stronger, your lines get stronger!” When we suffer, everybody else suffers; our partner, our friends and family. How can we recharge our compassion battery?

“How many people work for one potato to get it on your plate?” Everybody is contributing a lot. Think like; everybody wants to support you! Everybody? What do you do with the person who throws bad words at you? Ask yourself: what’s my weak point?

If you manage to remove the borders around you, the more you become like at home. And you relax, when you are home.

Compassion alone is already a fine thing. If you team it up with wisdom, you rock! With wisdom, you have compassion at the right moment which is very effective. “Wisdom we need. And clarity.” Remember: everybody wants to benefit to you. So how do we apply wisdom?

“No judgment, no expectations, no conception.”

Remember the shouting person? After the loud acoustic waves did hit you, go into your room, sit down, relax and say “wow”. Hint from Lama Kelzang; if you can’t go into “your room”, e.g. at work, go to the toilet and lock the door. Wisdom is knowing clearly. If you are right into an emotional discussion, it’s very hard to say, who is right or wrong. Remember: “Only you go with YOUR ideas.” Try to give up anything and just see what is happening (at least for a moment).

Here’s a tiny summary, how to rest your mind:

  • Compassion: Everybody is a supporter for you.
  • Wisdom: Don’t take them for too real.
  • Network: nothing is separate from me. It’s a connected network.

“When it’s all so easy, why do we do it wrong all the time?” The answer is: Habit. Meditation on the one side and everyday life on the other side have to come together. We fail, that’s normal. If we start with 1% meditation in our everyday life and slowly increase it to 2, 3, 4, 5% – we experience more peace and more harmony. Nobody can steal it!

Why are there so many meditation techniques?” Having only one meditation technique would make us crazy. Imagine: one doctor would have the same patient for 10 hours a day. Crazy! Finally, become a deeper explorer. If meditation techniques 1, 2, 3, 4 did not work, go out and get some fresh air!

Thanks Lama Kelzang. Namaste!

Body Speech Mind

Body-Speech-Mind balance in Lerab Ling.

Picture for the blog post, body speech mind, by Chris Remspecher.Recently I was lucky to attend a teaching about body speech mind by Khenpo Tsündu Tarching. Here’s my tiny summary for you:

“Is everybody in good health? Yes? Good. Because no health, not good for anybody.”

We are tired after a five minutes’ walk. We have become so lazy. We do this and that and waste so much time. Remember, you never get again, again this life. What’s right or wrong – you decide. Engage with your body speech mind.

Always watch yourself: who am I?

Our true nature of mind is full of wisdom. Disturbing emotions always lead to trouble.

Tsündu Tarching’s opinion is “the more religions, the more benefits”. On the bright side, it leads to more communication about religion, on the dark side, it creates human suffering. Try to remove bad thoughts; they will poison every action from the start of your bad intention until your final action.

“All mistakes come from misunderstandings.” Khenpo Tsündu Tarching

“So what is Buddhism” somebody asked. His answer: “It’s a way of life, a message, a description of phenomena.”

And remember: whatever you are looking for, it’s only for this life!

Namaste

Blocked Paths

Picture for the blog post "Blocked Paths" by Chris Remspecher.

You have a plan. You have a map. And sometimes blocked paths are a gift.

In most cases, you get something like a pre-warning, a sign, a phone call, a bad feeling in your stomach. Since many of us are busy and stressed, we tend to overlook those hints and suddenly we are totally surprised by blocked paths.

What can you do now?

  • You can wait. Meditate and hope the barrier disappears.
  • You can turn back. And go back the same path that brought you here…
  • You can look around. Use all your senses, maybe you overlooked a tiny new path that navigates you into a new direction.
  • You can ask: yourself, your true friends and your family. You might not like the answers at first.
  • You can do something. Change some mosaic pieces of the picture. If impossible right now in the outer world, start with your inner world. Start with a smile.

Remember: blocked paths can also be a gift. They force you to stop, recalculate your life, change. Namaste

Knock on the Sky

Stunning sky over a lake in the ProvenceKnock on the sky!

Clear blue sky is mainly, well, clear and blue. Let’s say it looks like how we imagine a peaceful mind, no cloudy thoughts, no stress – all good.

„Knock on the sky and listen to the sound“ ZEN saying.

In pictures, a plain blue sky can look boring or empty. Have you ever seen sun rays cutting through the clouds like a samurai sword slices a tomato? A wow-feeling, right?

Next time your head is clouded with worries and pseudo feelings, knock on the sky and listen to the sound. Move your brain cells, focus on bright thoughts and beam your clouds away!

Make your life lighter

Picture for the blog post "Make your life lighter" by Chris Remspecher in 2012.Make your life lighter – suggestions:

  1. Only carry stuff, you care for; e.g. replace your old and too heavy notebook, dump useless thoughts and pseudo feelings, wear things that make you happy.
  2. Surround your-self with stuff, that makes you smile; declutter your desk, closet, loft and ‘friends’.
  3. Stay curious; undust your brain cells, try something new in your life, rearrange your kitchen setup, start new habits, read great books, exchange your thoughts, travel!
  4. Stay awesome; eat and drink healthy, get some fine tea, move your temple aka body around, dance, jump, sing and smile!
  5. Be you.

 

Heavens Gate

Picture for the blog post Heavens Gate by Chris Remspecher.Sometimes heavens gate is very visible.

This is what I call a ZEN moment; I was reading some highly technical stuff and my brain was full of other thoughts, good ones, bad ones and all in between. Just before my crazy monkeys threw another BSOD (blue screen of death – yeah I know…), I heard my-self saying

how am I gonna do all this?

Maybe it was mechanically or genetically but my head went up to the stars. Due to the daylight my eyes did not catch any visible stars. Instead I got this lovely heavens gate!

Yes, symbolically, very temporary and maybe even spiritually – but still amazingly fluffy! Like a Tibetan mandala,  the gate kept its shape for a little while and slowly transformed back into flying water… Namaste