Don’t torture yourself with memories of the past. Sometimes no matter how you wish things could be just like before, it won’t be anymore.
It looks like our brain is not really afraid of learning new things, it’s more scared to loose old and known patterns. Letting go sometimes simply is a no-go for us. Why?
Maybe you have seen the Pixar movie “Finding Nemo”. Being in the whales mouth, Nemo’s father isn’t really happy to let go and to slide down into the whales stomach. He is expecting the situation to get kinda unhealthy. In the end, what first looked worse to us, suddenly boosts us up directly into our bright future.
If you have difficulties to say goodbye completely to an old pattern, situation or friend in one go, free yourself everyday with another small step. Day by day.
Though you cannot return to the past to make a brand new start, you can always make a brand new start now, and a brand new ending. -Unknown
I played matchmaker last night – quite successfully – and I love it! Hopefully, soon, I will meet a QUALITY man myself! I deserve it! #Amen
Have you noticed that some people treat relationships like a (tennis-) match? Even before the two opponents meet, we know already the final result: one winner – one loser
Let’s have a closer look at the tennis court. Balls are like arguments, the net reminds me of our (inner) censors, the court itself could be named the empathy area and the lines are your (self-set) borders. In the deluxe version you will also find a judge and an audience.
Maybe the following scene sounds familiar: you are happily at a party and suddenly out of nowhere, a couple starts to play. They did not even ask you if you would like to be their judge (or audience). In the not-so-lucky case, you can’t leave this awkward scene and Scotty just doesn’t beam you up…
What’s the quality of a discussion victory with a loser and only one winner? It’s 2010 and you are intelligent! Try a different approach:
Go for win-win, remove your fences, have a look at your own-built limitations (censors, lines …) and have the balls to loose. You can only win, because Love is Louder!